Amir Levine

Be available: Respond sensitively to their distress, allow them to be dependent on you when they feel the need, check in with them from time to time, and provide comfort when things go wrong.

Unlike the anxious, you don’t let an activated attachment system distract you—you aren’t addicted to the highs and lows of being with someone who keeps you guessing all the time. Unlike avoidants, you aren’t diverted by false fantasies of the perfect person waiting for you or “the one” that got away, and you don’t unconsciously employ deactivating strategies that cause you to get cold feet when someone starts to get close.

you believe that there are many potential partners open to intimacy and closeness who would be responsive to your needs. You know you deserve to be loved and valued at all times. You are programmed to expect that.