Almost Adulting

ultimately helped people in the hopes that they might notice I needed help, too.

Someone I had seen as an anchor of unflappability was suddenly weak and defenseless.

The release and joy that come from luxury are only felt when you earned it

Having what you want all the time is a hidden curse

Realize that your constant anxieties and worries and personal pitfalls are all in your mind and that you are in control, even if you feel a bit nutty sometimes. Address your feelings like relatives; you’re going to have to see them all every now and again, probably and especially at family reunions. Some of them you’re very familiar with and get on with just fine. Others cause a complete scene and usually ruin all the festivities and make terrible pumpkin pie.

When you’re mad, you could choose to take it out on others or your environment, but nine times out of ten, that’s not the correct avenue. I’m not telling you to control your emotions—no one should have to wrangle or change how they feel—I’m just suggesting you control your reaction to emotions. You’re better off letting your feelings do their thing.

I’ve learned through all the crying jags and overly emotional text messages sent at three a.m. is that feelings are just things. You can’t help them; they aren’t your fault; they just are.

You never want to be in a position where your hero seems human.

Habits are hard to break, and once you’ve gotten into one, only you can regain enough control to get yourself out of it. Own your life. As cliché as it sounds, you only get one shot at a great one.

the aches and pains of being apart from someone are a testament to how much you do want to be with them.