A Joosr Guide to Mindset by Carol Dweck

growth” mindset is much more likely to succeed and learn from their experiences

fixed” mindset will be seriously hampered in their development and success,

two fundamental mindsets which dictate how people think, feel, and act in every aspect of their lives. A person who has what she terms a

mindset is a crucial factor in determining whether they succeed or fail throughout their lif

Reaching the top in any field is actually about hard work and putting in the effort to learn everything you can about what you are doing. The best athletes know that they can always get better, and are constantly practicing and developing in new ways. They never think they have peaked and that there’s nothing more to learn. They have the character to be mentally tough when things get difficult. Plenty of potential athletes have talent but not the character to pursue it. It’s hard work.

In a relationship you have to accept that you will not agree on everything and be able to look at this as a positive learning experience. Constant communication will allow you to address any problems that arise. It is important not to assume that you know what the other person is thinking or feeling – you always need to ask so that everything is clear.

Relationships are never perfect. Therefore, the need to seek perfection that those with a fixed mindset experience causes them to be unhappy that they can’t achieve it. People aren’t going to be perfectly compatible – in fact, many relationship experts think that differences are healthy. The trick is to allow the other person to be open about their differences, and for you to be open about your own.

fixed mindset will cause you to stress about proving yourself again and again, so that you won’t be able to concentrate on getting any better. You may not be doing what you love because you are afraid that what you love is something you simply can’t achieve. So, instead, you stick with what you know you can grasp, thereby halting your potential. You protect yourself from failure by not trying.

If you have a fixed mindset and you fail, that experience will become a defining moment that classifies you personally as a failure. You believe your potential never changes and can be evaluated permanently at any given moment. Your underlying goal in most things is to prove how smart you are and assert your superiority over others.