Tony Bennis

Typical manipulative tactics include
-Complaining
-Playing victim
-Inducing guilt
-Comparing
-Offering excuses and rationalizing
-Feigning ignorance
-Emotional blackmail
-Evasiveness
-Demonstrating fake concern
-Undermining people
-Blaming others and using “who me?” defenses
-Lying
-Denying
-False flattery
-Intimidation
-Giving the illusion of selflessness
-Shaming
- Using foot in the door techniques
and more

Seemingly small acts like (saying a thank you or being gracious) these go a long way in forging bonds where people truly like you and listen to you.

They often cash in on the cluelessness of their victims by saying they are imaging things or making something up. An already clueless and unsure person is less likely to question this idea.

For example, if you do someone a huge favor, they feel obliged to return that favor which puts you above them in the relationship dynamics until they return the favor.

. Play on people’s fears.

is cleverly constructed to prey on the woman’s fear of losing the relationship is she gives in to her ambitions.

. The actions and words shouldn’t match.

2. The actions and words shouldn’t match. Emotional manipulators tell you exactly what they think you want to hear but will rarely follow it up with action. T

one point they’ll tell you how fortunate they are to know a person like you, and the next they’ll be slamming you for being a burden.

you are constantly reminding people about how you helped them and use that as leverage to make them feel obliged to you.