Meg Jay

To a person who runs high in Neuroticism, differences are seen in a negative light. Anxiety and judgments about these differences then lead to criticism and contempt, two leading relationship killers.

Let’s say you and Matt break up. What happens if that perfect match does not exist?

I actually had a brief thought about adopting an older child so I can find the perfect match in a kid

Life can only be understood backward, but it must be lived forward.
—Søren Kierkegaard, philosopher

Phineas Gage changed from thoughtful to reckless, from purposeful to vacillating, because the tamping rod had made a hole in his frontal lobe.

the frontal lobe does not fully mature until sometime between the ages of twenty and thirty. In our twenties, the pleasure-seeking, emotional brain is ready to go while the forward-thinking frontal lobe is still a work in progress.

The frontal lobe is where we move beyond the futile search for black-and-white solutions as we learn to tolerate—and act on—better shades of gray.

the brain changes in response to the environment.

Because our twenties are the capstone of this last critical period, they are, as one neurologist said, a time of “great risk and great opportunity.”

“survival of the busiest.”