#108 Chip Conley on Why Everyone Has Midlife Wrong

Chip Conley is the founder of Joie de Vivre Hospitality, an advisor to Airbnb and the author of 5 books, including his most recent work; Wisdom at Work: The Making of a Modern Elder https://amzn.to/2FGPUAI.
In this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, he talks about wisdom, curiosity, and what it means to live a good life as you age.

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SHOW NOTES:
How Chip Conley lived and died 9 times within a 90 minute period [2:24]
What he says about a divine intervention [5:10]
Chip Conley talks about psychedelic experience and why art is at the center of life [6:15]
How we’re being possessed by smartphone screens and not having real-life experiences anymore [8:11]
How to “tap into” the atmosphere of burning man without going to a big festival [9:03]
The nametags people wear without realizing it and the mindsets we carry about our lives [10:37]
Chip Conley provides thoughts on the value of society. [12:40]
The U-curve of happiness and how you get less happy each decade until mid-life [15:39]
Why he joined AIRBNB at age 52 and became the modern elder [16:54]
The value of energy, curiosity, passion. [18:54]
Why pattern recognition is so important for living an awesome life [19:12]
How to foster curiosity [21:25]
The recipe for Chip Conley’s success [22:40]
Check out appreciative inquiry [23:17]
Why the difference between presence and absence is an iPhone. [25:54]
Why presence is more valuable now than it’s ever been before [26:02]
The ritual of burning man and the hero's journey [27:27]
What’s interesting about life? [29:30]
One of the most valuable questions in business is “what business are you in?” [32:41]
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs [34:34]
Why 5 of his friends committed suicide and what he took from that [38:05]
The difference between attain mode vs. attune mode in life (important!) [39:37]
Why he wants to make aging aspirational again [41:15]


QUOTES:
“The more digital we get, the more ritual we need” [8:01]
“The #1 thing that people have to do to understand their mindset is to first identify it, then imagine a different point of view for it, then own that new point of view for it, and then actually start talking from that new point of view.” [11:16]
“The kind of questions that are asked in a leadership meeting tell me everything about the culture.” [24:08]


PEOPLE MENTIONED:
Brian Chesky [6:36]
David Cooperrider [23:17]
Tim Ferriss https://bit.ly/2FypAta [26:45]
Steve Jobs https://bit.ly/IN1Lf8 [31:17]
Peter Drucker [32:39]
Ted Levitt [32:41]
Abraham Maslow [34:22]
Viktor Frankl [34:23]
Lao Tzu [34:34]
Bill Gates [37:30]

BOOKS MENTIONED:
“What Business Are You In?” Harvard Business Review https://bit.ly/1uUqakZ [32:41]
Man’s Search For Meaning https://amzn.to/2FwKetL [34:56]
Emotional Equations: Simple Steps for Creating Happiness + Success in Business + Life https://amzn.to/2CuLGJj [35:54]