VBK Media

This pale-cheeked stranger. Whoever she was. Whatever she was.

Obviously, our past moulds us to a great extent, and we are products of that. But that doesn’t mean it has to shape our present, or even our future.

Instead of saying, ‘I’m like this because such and such happened to me,’ I prefer the statement, ‘This happened to me, but I’m not going to let it stop me from finding happiness.’

When you carry this old, heavy armour into every relationship, it’s as if you’re preparing for battle. It’s time to disarm, letting your body, mind, and spirit know that you are inviting love not war. The first step in doing so is to let go.

What are you really trying to say when you bring up things from the past that upset you? That he doesn’t care about you or love you? Why do you really feel like that? What else is going on inside you and how many of those feelings are actually attached to something much, much deeper?

The way we interact, have conversations, and argue reveals a lot about our emotional hoarding habit, and understanding new ways to communicate will help.

No one can live healthily in such conditions

Some of us may cling to pain because we think it’s a part of who we are, while others might attach themselves to people who trigger negative feelings from their past because they think that’s the normal state to be in.

There’s no blueprint for how we interpret our past or use our experiences in the present. Everyone is different, but we
all act in response to what we have gone through, no matter

There’s no blueprint for how we interpret our past or use our experiences in the present. Everyone is different, but we
all act in response to what we have gone through, no matter what that response is.